Elitism Is A Problem, But It’s Not A ‘Coast vs. Rust Belt’ Issue

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So often, I’ll see or hear the term “coastal elites”, referring to celebrities or other people who live in large coastal cities such as Los Angeles, New York City, Seattle, etc.

The term is used as a way of saying that, because these people are largely, or wholly, unaffected by issues due to their success or wealth, their opinion or voice is invalid and unwanted.

The people who say this are the true elites, not the coast-dwellers.

Yes, the so-called “coastal elites” are largely unaffected by the policies they’re fighting against, but that doesn’t mean they’re not on your side. I would argue that would mean they’re more on your side because they don’t have to fight for these things.

Let’s take Susan Sarandon and her appearances on talk shows and news media outlets.

Every time she speaks, the blowback from people, democrats specifically, is astonishing.

She, on one occasion, said that people are now ‘energized’ by Trump’s electoral win. She also said that if Bernie didn’t win the primary, there should be a revolution, which I’m very split on.

On the one hand, Bernie was the most progressive candidate, the probable best way for us to move forward as a nation on our policies.

On the other hand, revolting before ensuring the election for the Democrats was/is stupid.

Going back to people being energized, I’m wholly in support of this statement and here’s why: it’s true.

She’s not saying that him being elected is a good thing, but she is saying that it has brought about a good thing. People on the left are now, to use her word, energized to fight.

People who didn’t feel the need to fight before are feeling it now.

However, getting back to the topic, people, let’s call them activist elitists, on the left are focusing on the “people who didn’t feel the need to fight before” and “they’re largely unaffected, so their voice doesn’t matter” parts, rather than focusing on the fact that they’re fighting now.

Look, I get it. I’m with you; they should have been fighting to begin with; but not everyone has the will or desire to constantly fight for everything, for more, against every injustice. And I don’t wish that on them, no matter how irritating it is that I can’t do that.

I have to stay informed and, to a degree, active in politics. My safety depends on it, like so many others’ does.

Since, for my own wellbeing, I have to stay informed and at least circulate information, why wouldn’t I keep up to date on other issues that don’t directly affect me and circulate that as well? It’s reading another article or three or watching a few more videos, and circulating is as easy as a tweet, which is what I do anyway.

This is where, I believe, activist elitists’ frustration comes from: it’s so easy to do, why wouldn’t you do it in the first place.

The answer is easy: celebrities and other “coastals” are affected, just not in the same way as we are; they’re affected by being ostracized in their job field and unable to get consistent work.

We like to believe that celebrities are all extremely rich, but that’s not always the case. Actors especially are affected by a very temperamental market.

If someone better, or someone who’s slightly more attractive and just as good, comes along, they’re out of a job. They’re not the hottest thing out there and, in the entertainment industry, everyone wants the next hottest thing.

Actors have to tread carefully. If they become activists with their platforms and that may, not even will, but may, cut into profits, they’re out of work unless they’re well-established. And if that’s the case, they don’t have to worry about not having work in a lot of cases.

Look at athlete activist Colin Kaepernick: he peacefully protested against racial injustice and inequality. He was respectful: he didn’t incite violence, destroy property, or disrespect anyone. But he can’t get a job in the field he’s worked towards his entire life now.

He used his platform and is now paying for it.

The problem isn’t the people in fear of their jobs; it’s the people making them lose their jobs due to controversy, one way or another.

The elitists aren’t those who are just becoming activists and aren’t affected by the issues directly; the elitists are the people who demand the past be changed or everything stay compartmentalized.

We need to stop the infighting; we need to unite.

The activist elites need to stop creating new problems and accept the help to fight on the actual problems.


Hatred and Bigotry Are Not Valid Ideologies, Political Opinions, or Viewpoints

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There’s been this ‘controversy’ about something in the non-political sphere lately having to do with video games, specifically Playtonic Games’  Yooka-Laylee, releasing April 11th, 2017.

So, why am I talking about video games on a political blog? Because one of the voice actors, a YouTuber by the name of Jon Jafari, better known as JonTron, was taken out of the game following a debate in which he exhibited some racist views.

Following Playtonic’s decision to take him out of the game, they received backlash. A lot of backlash.

People denouncing the decision citing ‘free speech‘ as an opposition to taking a racist out of a game, even though it’s well within the company’s rights to do so, not to mention just being the right thing to do.

You set and make an example; that’s the only way we progress.

Moreover, promoting racism/homophobic/sexist/etc. views, is, in essence, exhibiting those same views yourself, just like voting.

Speaking out and making a stand against those views is not going against free speech.

One, they’re a private company, not the government.

Two, they’re based in the UK.

Three, and this one is important, discriminatory views are not valid opinions or viewpoints.

You, as a consumer, have every right to boycott the company for silencing a racist xenophobic person’s voice, but don’t pretend it’s because of some injustice against that person by the company.

It’s because, on some level, you agree with his views.

If your political ideology stems from a place that harms others, it’s not valid. It’s not right.

It is explicitly wrong.

When you dehumanize a group of people based on some arbitrary reason, you’ve lost the argument, no matter what you’re arguing. You’ve chosen to say that these humans are not human to you without any legitimate reason or based on any merit.

There will be some who argue that by me saying this, I’m inherently doing the same.

That’s false.

There’s a logical, intelligent, legitimate reason for my view: I’m not saying these people aren’t human or unimportant, nor am I dehumanizing them in some way; what I am doing is pointing out their fallacious, unintellectual, morally bankrupt views and presenting a reason why such views are invalid and wrong.

If you fail to see that, you’re missing the point I’m trying to make.

At the end of the day, we’re all humans. We all have lives, desires, hobbies, feelings, and everything else. We need to stop focusing on our differences, especially ones that have no bearing on our implicit humanity, and focus on our similarities.

Dress Codes Aren’t A Case-By-Case Basis

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This past weekend, United Airlines stopped two teenage girls and a child to change clothes because they were wearing leggings.

It’s reported that leggings “were not appropriate travel attire”, via The New York Times. The father of the young girl was also reportedly wearing above-the-knee shorts and was left alone.

United has defended this decision of policing female’s choice of dress by saying that it’s due to a policy for ‘pass travelers’, travelers that are using company benefits, either employees themselves or their families through standby tickets, tickets left over when a flight isn’t full.

United has said that pass travelers are ‘representing’ the company.

No. You do not get to dictate how anyone dresses in any situation as long as they’re not on the clock. Employee, dependant, or otherwise, this is unacceptable.

No, I’m not saying you can’t have a dress code for all your passengers or even a specified dress code for, specifically, on-the-clock flyers for your company. That’s perfectly fine.

But off-the-clock employees or their dependants? Unless they’re wearing a clear indicator that they’re an employee, which, by all means, have a policy that off-the-clock workers take such indicators off, they are not representatives.

They’re people who you have no control over.

If they’re wearing something offensive or hateful, well, that’s something to put in your overall dress code or employee policies on public expression ahead of time; but if it’s not those things, you can’t control what they wear in their own time.

(By ‘offensive’, I mean in poor taste; pasties and tassels, undergarments, swimsuits that aren’t ‘passable’ as ‘regular’ clothing, etc. Not leggings, which have become regular daily wear for women, and even men.)

Employees, once they are not on the clock or clearly indicating that they work for your company, are not representatives. They are not yours to dictate what they can and can’t dress like separate from other people.

Because, here’s something you probably don’t know, but those people that are pass travelers that aren’t employees or outwardly indicating representation of the company, no one else will know or even care what they’re dressed like.

When you’re at the airport, you’re there because you’re trying to get somewhere, not because you’re trying to socialize or ‘represent’ your company.

Unless parts of your body that, by public decency standards, are hanging out, you’re fine and no one cares except for those people who want to control every other person’s life and dress.

And you don’t kowtow to those people.

Going back to the little girl’s father who was wearing above-the-knee shorts, no one said anything to him. I’d argue that’s worse than leggings because he’s showing more skin and his underwear or even privates could be seen.

To make another point, I, prior to this point, anyway, fly United. And I’ve flown in above-the-knee shorts and pajama pants. Hell, I’ve worn slippers.

You could argue that I wasn’t a pass traveler, but, as I pointed out, that doesn’t matter in the slightest.

So what’s the real issue here?

Oh, wait! I know what it is!! He’s male and they’re female.

There’s the issue! It’s good old-fashioned sexism.

They’re wearing leggings and being sexualized because of it, even though they’re teenagers and a child.

This is at the heart of most, if not all, dress codes anywhere. Male and females have wildly different standards in regards to dress.

From school to business, females are overtly sexualized and controlled via their sartorial sense where men are not.

Females are given more restrictions, are held to them more strictly, and are punished more severely if they don’t adhere to these unfair limitations.

There’s no other word than sexism for this.

If females can’t wear leggings, neither can males. If females can’t wear shorts above the knee, neither can males. If females can’t show their chests, neither can males.

Let’s reverse this to make it more empowering.

If males can show their chests, so can women. If males can wear short shorts, so can women. If men can wear leggings, so can women.

While, yes, male and females wear different clothing, they should both be held to the same standards where applicable, which is everywhere because clothing is irrelevant.

Clothing isn’t gendered or has a personal preference as to who can and can’t wear it, aside from how it was made and for what body type it was made for. Wear what you please.

Equality doesn’t discriminate or place different standards on case-by-case bases. That’s why it’s equality.

Why You Need To Realize That You’re Not A Millionaire

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I’m going to take you on a small little journey, simply to make my point that much easier.

So often in the US you’ll come across those that are called ‘the backbone’ of the US; these people are white people, heteronormative people, Christians, small business owners, or any other people ‘whose rights are slowly being taken away’.

These people are put up on a rickety pedestal by Republicans…a pedestal that they slowly push down into a hole in the ground.

Now these people don’t care that they’re being pushed into a hole in the ground because, Hey! They’re on a pedestal! It doesn’t matter that the top of the pedestal is below the ground above the hole. They’re on a pedestal.

This is the attitude that conservative people hold. They don’t see the forest for the trees. (Or the ground for a pedestal, as the case is.) They believe that, because they aren’t touching the ground, it’s all good, even as the hole is slowly getting deeper.

(Keep this in mind; I’m going to be coming back to it in the future.)

Surrounding them is a sea of people on pedestals: large, secure, golden pedestals. But they’re reduced to a rickety pedestal. In a hole. That’s getting deeper. And flooding. Because the 1% is not only slowly deepening the hole, no, no; they’re dumping polluted water in it.

(I’ll talk about DAPL this week. If I remember and don’t get distracted by something else. I may push it so I can do a really nice, in-depth post about DAPL, rather than what I usually do, which is condense it down to small talking points. I’ll do that too, but I want to show how important DAPL is by really digging deep and researching, posting facts, sourcing, etc.)

These people on these nice, golden pedestals are the 1%: career politicians, big businesses, millionaires, billionaires, etc.

Going back to the ‘backbone’… they still believe they’re the same as those other people on pedestals; they still equate themselves because they all have pedestals.

At the bottom of the hole are people who don’t even have a pedestal. They’re stuck there with no means to get out of the ever-deepening, flooding hole.

These people are the disenfranchised: the poor, the racial minorities, the LGBTQ+ community, the religious minorities, etc.

Ever stuck in a hole, the disenfranchised are desperately trying to get the person on the pedestal off of the pedestal, onto the ground above so that they can slowly climb up the pedestal and get onto the ground themselves.

The backbone, still in the hole, mind, is pushing and shoving the people down as they climb, not understanding that they’re just trying to get him back on the ground so they can get there too. But he doesn’t want them on his pedestal.

They’d rather sink on the pedestal than get onto the ground, onto safety, and allow them onto what he believes is his, even as they’re all slowly sinking.

Because, see, they’re on a pedestal. They believe they’re exactly the same as the 1%.

They dislike looking at context, at critically thinking, because that would put their own views into question, both of themselves and of everything else.

If they really think about where they are (on a pedestal in a sinking, toxic, flooding hole), and what’s really going on (the people below), they have to eschew their pedestal, their privilege. They have to get on the ground, off of that pedestal. They have to face the fact that their pedestal isn’t as good as the 1%’s pedestal.

The vast majority of the people on the rickety pedestals are the ‘backbone’, rather than the backbone and the disenfranchised. (Who, I mean, I could easily argue that the disenfranchised are the actual backbone, but…later.)

They don’t take into account that their pedestal isn’t the same as the 1%’s, because they see themselves as prospective capable genius millionaires.

To anyone outside (Or with half a brain, really…), this is ridiculous. Of course everyone isn’t a prospective millionaire. (Let’s have some focus here.) Of course context matters and the type of pedestal matters. (Even though pedestals shouldn’t exist, but that’s another post entirely.)

Americans are taught all throughout their lives that they’re better; that they’re more capable, smarter, and richer.

But Americans are also taught that you can do anything; not a bad thing, in and of itself, but it’s paired with the idea of ‘The American Dream’: the core idea of which is that, if you work hard, you can achieve anything.

Which makes sense, though when taken in context, it’s not only flawed, but toxic. This is where the problem lies. It’s not obvious, and it may seem like it’s not even there with these two specific things paired, but let me explain, because it’s not just those two things.

While, yes, telling people (children especially) that they can do anything, that the world is their pickle* is a good thing, because it removes limitations, when it’s paired with the ‘labor = achievement’ aspect, the broader ‘American Dream’, and specifically, especially, the belief that they’re better, it creates a sort of ownership, a superiority, over the pedestal and over the disenfranchised, respectively.

Because they’re already told that they’re better, then they’re told that they can do anything, especially if they work for it (which gives them complete ownership over them,) then they’re given a pedestal because of their achievements, those individual aspects put together, that alone are fine, warp.

Except for the idea that they’re better; that’s trash. And also the root of the problem.

The idea that Americans and the USA are better than any other nation or its people is wrong. It’s wholly un-American.

We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the Pursuit of Happiness.

Declaration of Independence

This is where the initial cognitive dissonance is in all of American politics.

Because, see, you’re taught about the ‘American Dream’ and America’s supposed superiority before you’re taught about the Declaration of Independence in most cases.

Even if the term ‘American Dream’ isn’t used, the idea of it is everywhere; it’s in our television shows, our movies, our books, our music.

You consume any media set or made in America:

  • There’s a non-American; “I came to America to make my dreams come true/give my kids a better life/etc.”
  • There’s an up-and-coming celebrity/musician/billionaire/businessman; “I worked for all that I’ve done and all of this is mine (and Jesus’), you can do it too!”
  • There’s a person from a less-progressed nation/society; “Here, let me teach you the right way“/”I’m so glad I’m not from there.”/etc.

That’s typically American’s first introduction to what America is. Not through any harmful means, but just because that’s what our society is.

It’s not a real view of the world; it’s a view of the world through the lens of, again, a prospective capable genius millionaire.

By the time you do learn what the USA actually is, you’ve already been bombarded with all of the other views. You’re either conflicted, think nothing of it, or go with logic and reason and change views, getting rid of the toxicity.

You realize that, no, you’re probably not going to become a famous millionaire, but you can be happy; you can be a good person.

But that’s not what America is. America is full of prospective millionaires; of ‘backbone’ people who are on a pedestal (or disenfranchised and not on a pedestal) who see the other people on pedestals (the 1%) and equate their rickety pedestal with the sturdy, golden pedestals.

People, please! You are not a prospective millionaire.




*If you recognize this, you’re awesome.

Why Identity Politics Isn’t A Bad Thing

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Often, those on the right use ‘identity politics’ as an insult or a disqualifier to policies or opinions.

In doing so, they’re effectively attempting to minimize, and even neutralize, humans and humanity itself. Let me explain.

To harken back to my post on saturday, What It’s Like To Be Gay In Trump’s America, I said this:

The moment I say this, every single word I say will be completely disregarded by a portion of people.

They will be completely blind to everything else I say because of who I am.

The message that I’m trying to get out, the facts, the points, everything will be completely thrown out because I’m simply “using identity politics” to make a point and not looking at things objectively, even when that’s the majority of what I do here. That’s what I’m setting out to do, anyway.

I would very much like to expand on that and how, not only is that a bad thing, but so-called “identity politics” is a good thing and wholly unavoidable.

From Merriam-Webster:



  • 1a:  sameness of essential or generic character in different instances
    • 1b:  sameness in all that constitutes the objective reality of a thing :oneness
  • 2a:  the distinguishing character or personality of an individual :individuality

So, in other words, we all have an identity, both as humans and as individuals.

However, that’s not what I’d like to focus on, though I will be referencing it.

No, what I’d like to focus on is how Republicans and conservatives also use identity politics.

They use identity politics as Republicans, Americans, conservatives, Christians (and its surrounding religions), monetary value, and, by their views, moral superiority.

While these things aren’t a problem in and of themselves, they like to use these identities to push those who don’t fit into these categories down.

Rather than trying to make other people equal or strive for things that are good for humanity as a whole, they use them to push those things down in order to push their agenda.

While, again, this isn’t an issue without context, when you look at what their agenda actually is and look at how they implement it, it becomes clear that they are not on the side of humanity, or even just good.

That’s because the Republican agenda is greed and money, and the conservative agenda is to get rid of those who aren’t exactly like them.

When you compare that to the Democrats, or really, more left, liberal, and progressives, when they use identity politics, it’s to promote equality and to dispel injustices.

Their goal is to pull everybody up to the same level as those at the top, which, ironically or not, those on the other side perceive this as an attack in an attempt to push them down and put them below.

This is a classic act of projection, which is defined as:

Definition of projection

6b:  the attribution of one’s own ideas, feelings, or attitudes to other people or to objects; especially:  the externalization of blame, guilt, or responsibility as a defense against anxiety

They know that’s what they do, so they assume that’s what everyone does.

As I’ve said before, Republicans/conservatives like everything to be simple, to be black and white. They dislike having to take context into account to form an accurate viewpoint or opinion because that requires more work than the inconsequential amount they use; it’s more difficult.

I’ve also spoke about how they object to being kind to one another; that they view it, that they view being human, as a weakness.

Because they believe these things and think this way, they automatically assume and project that onto others because they’re unable, or unwilling, to wonder or think about how everyone is different.

Those differences, be they in opinion, physical appearance or performance, emotional capability or conduct, etc. so on and so forth, are what forms our identities.

Every single person is an individual with their own identity, but those on the right don’t like that. They would prefer if everyone were the same.

But if that happened, humans would cease to be humans, both as a society and as a species.

Were we all the same, we would cease to do anything; our complex cognitive reactions and interactions would halt, our impact on the world would cease, and our species would not progress.

(I’m not going to go in-depth at this point, but I felt it was worth noting; I may come back to this at a later post.)

This is the danger of right-leaning, conservative thinking; their goal is not just to slow down progress, as others may tell you, but to conserve it completely: to halt it.

This is where the left-leaning, progressive thinkers come in. They attempt to assemble people to combat this, to keep us progressing, by using identity and identity politics.

The way for us, as humans, to survive, and, indeed, thrive, is by progressing further as, not just a species, but a society. (There are so many commas in this sentence, but I love it.)

To jump just a little further into the possible ramifications of halting progress and becoming, effectively, all the same, if that were to happen, not only would those immediate things take effect, but, over time, we, as a species, due to lack of progress, would evolve.

That’s how evolution works, broadly. X doesn’t change, impact, or thrive, and because nature is constantly changing, X doesn’t continue to survive. So X begins adapting, or, as we should put it, evolving, slowly becoming Y over time because of X’s inability to continue on as X.

(Y’know, I am going to come back to this topic in the future after I do some more research and gain some more knowledge.)

You can see this in the overwhelming spread of left-leaning young people as the right-leaning older people are having children, getting older, and dying.

People, as a whole, are realizing that other people matter, that other people’s lives matterthat the world does not revolve around them. And that reflects by people leaning more left.

This is a reflection on people placing importance on individuals and their identities.

Because, in the end, we’re all human and that’s what matters.

What It’s Like To Be Gay In Trump’s America

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I’ve been putting this off for quite a while, I’ll be honest. I’ve wanted to avoid speaking about this as long as possible because this blog isn’t really about me.

It’s about politics and factual truth. Yes, my views are a major part of the blog, but I’m not the focus; the politics are.

While that’s not changing, I feel it’s important to speak up on who I am, for context’s sake. My second post was a deeply personal letter that I published here because I felt it was important to share.

I’ve been up front about things when they come, but I’ve never really addressed this particular side of me on the blog, for reasons I didn’t really know about until just recently:

The moment I say this, every single word I say will be completely disregarded by a portion of people.

They will be completely blind to everything else I say because of who I am.

The message that I’m trying to get out, the facts, the points, everything will be completely thrown out because I’m simply “using identity politics”* to make a point and not looking at things objectively, even when that’s the majority of what I do here. That’s what I’m setting out to do, anyway.

*More on this in a later post.

It’s like whenever you say anything on the internet and someone who doesn’t know who you are comments and you reply with something that’s logical or pushing against them or even just presenting new facts they didn’t know; the immediate reaction from them is “oh, you’re one of them” or something to that effect.

Except…for members of the LGBTQ+ community, this transfers over to real life as well.

People aren’t stereotypes; they’re individuals. While there may be a correlation, that doesn’t always hold true, in either direction.

Prior to the election, people, strangers I should say, would assume I was straight, mostly out of, I believe, politeness or some pseudo-equivalent in their minds; just a quiet way of pushing my existence back into hiding.

Guys (and I use that term for everyone), I know what my voice sounds like. I know what it sounds like when I speak, how I move, how I interact with people I don’t know.

I’m not “traditionally masculine”; I’m a geeky gay guy with glasses and dyed hair who wears flip-flops all year round and carries around a book bag and kind of acts like a “strong female character”.

I don’t know, I’m trying to make it easy to show who I am outside of the written word and…I’m basically Piper Halliwell from Charmed meets Buffy the Vampire Slayer meets Rachel Morgan from The Hollows by Kim Harrison meets Yuna from Final Fantasy X/X-2 meets Gin from Elemental Assassin by Jennifer Estep. Throw some Sora from Kingdom Hearts in there and you’ve got me almost completely.

I’m not a bro-y, tough guy, sports fanatic with a deep voice and disregard for general appearance. (I’m not saying that all straight guys are like this or anything, just pointing out the stereotype.)

I’m not flamboyantly bouncy either. (I’ve got masculinity issues from bullying.)

I’m just kinda…me; someone who’s kind of in the middle and watched way too much Charmed. Seriously. I’m like 80% Piper.


Before the election, people kinda left me alone. I’d sometimes get the side-eye from some people (read: men), but for the most part, I faded into the background, discounting the looks I got from my blue/purple/teal hair.

And, yes, I can tell when I was being looked at because of my hair and my sexuality. It’s…a different feeling.

With my hair, the looks always give off the feeling of “that dude’s hair is blue/purple/teal”; with my sexuality, the looks always give the feeling of “how disgusting”. It’s easy to tell the difference.

For one, people at large aren’t as good at controlling their facial expressions as they would like to believe. For another, those feelings you get of people watching you, those instincts built up throughout evolution and growing up, they’re telling. Very telling.

More and more often since November 9th, I’ve been getting those “how disgusting” looks. And it’s terrifying.

It’s terrifying because some of those looks from some of those people, sometimes the feeling they put off very clearly says “I would hurt you, even kill you, if you were alone and I got the chance”. I’m not saying it’s common, but it’s not rare anymore. Before, I’d only felt like that twice. Before, most of the looks were just disgusted, irritated that I existed. Now…

Now, whenever I go out in public, I’m scared. I won’t go anywhere alone, unless it’s somewhere I know will have a lot of people or has a big enough public view where other people could see. I won’t wait outside of the bathroom at the mall for my boyfriend to finish using it when I notice that people are looking my way, giving me those looks, or when it gets too quiet. I won’t walk through the grocery store to grab something alone unless the store’s populated enough.

Some of these I don’t even do consciously and I only just realized I did them as I was typing that out. It’s just an instinct that I’ve somehow obtained or cultivated without realizing. Just noticing how many people are in the store through sound or not walking anywhere I know won’t be in easy view of other people.

Realizing that is almost as terrifying as living it.

I just kinda stopped for a couple of minutes. I feel the need to point that out.

This past summer, I went to a small town bar with my mother, aunt, uncles, and a few cousins, on vacation. The entire time, I felt people watching me; judging me; being disgusted with me; appalled that I had the gall to exist, to even step foot in their bar.

At one point, I got pushed, just a bit, it could’ve been unintentional drunken imbalance, but it wasn’t. At another, I got felt up; not overtly, not super intrusive, but still. That person proceeded to watch me the rest of the time we were there.

(This is what women go through every day. But, sure, men and women are totally equal. Go read this thing I wrote on feminism.)

I avoided the bathroom all night. Until I saw my big huge uncle go in there; then I went. He noticed me in the mirror and started talking to me. I went to the bathroom. That dude that had felt me up and was staring at me came in. My uncle stayed in until I was done. I know he did; I could tell.

Imagine that feeling, take it and ratchet it up even more; now apply that to every single day.

That’s what it’s like now. That’s what every day that I leave my house is like.

I leave my house and I’m terrified, sometimes even just walking outside. I don’t let it keep me from living my life; that’d be letting them win. But…

I’m constantly hyper-vigilant, scared for my safety. Luckily, I’m also incredibly perceptive and it just fades into the background until it’s necessary to notice.

(I’ve probably mentioned this, because I’m a super braggy person about it and it’s a decent-ish way to push back against the rampant idiocy, but I have an IQ of 156; I’m an actual genius.

Let me be clear: IQ is not how smart you are; it’s how easily you process information, how high your capabilities are, even how you process information.

I learn at a phenomenally fast rate and process information faster than I can usually comprehend unless I’m really focusing.

When I tell you that I’m incredibly perceptive, that I can take things apart, that I can see threads and connections where most people wouldn’t until it was obvious, know that I mean it.)

That’s what life is now. Add in the fact that there’s that niggling feeling that’s reminiscent of history lessons of WWII and more and more throwbacks to that time…

It’s terrifying to be gay in this country right now.

Tolerating Intolerance Is Intolerant

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Accepting actions that are intolerant is not okay unless that intolerance is going against intolerance.

Let me parse that because it’s a little confusing.

Everyone should be able to live peacefully without interference from others, but some people will do just that; when that occurs, we should speak out. One shouldn’t turn a blind eye towards hatred; speaking out is the right action.

However, often, the people who are interfering with others’ ability to live their lives will tout the line ‘you’re being intolerant of my intolerance’ as an effort to derail the conversation.

Their line of thinking is that because you believe we should live peacefully, we should leave me alone to hate; but, like I said, they’re the ones who started it by interfering with others’ lives.

They are the ones who are being intolerant; and you do not have to accept that.

That’s not being a hypocrite; that’s a) being capable of critical thinking, b) taking context into account, and c) applying them both. This is something that those who are intolerant, who are largely on the right, are consistently unable to do.

They don’t understand nuance; they dislike anything complex; they believe everything is black and white. I spoke about this a few days ago while talking about the subjectivity of morality.

Getting back to the main point, if you’ve been reading my posts, you’ll have noticed that my big thing, my sole credence is that we should be able to live together peacefully.

“Treat others how you want to be treated.”

“Aheb li akheek ma tuhibu li nafsik.” which translates to “Wish for your brother, what you wish for yourself.” – Sayings of Muhammad, the prophet of Islam.

“Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” – Luke 6:31

“Do not do to others what you do not want done to yourself.” – Confucius

“An it harm none, do what ye will.” – Wiccan Rede

“Don’t be a dick.” – Wheaton’s Law, Wil Wheaton

These sayings, this belief, is at the heart of most, if not all, large and small, new and ancient, religions, creeds, personal rules, etc.

Yet, Republicans and those on the right, who consistently claim to be the morally superior side, ignore this; they ignore the religious values they claim to hold so dear and use to their advantage.

It’s our job to speak out against them when they do this.

It’s our job to stand against the injustices and intolerance.

Maybe one day, if we work for it, we’ll all be able to live peacefully.

Is it likely? No. We, as humans, are just each too different in such huge ways; there’s just too much strife between us. There will always be those that oppose X people because Y.

But that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t try.

Our best way of trying, our best way of even reaching towards the goal of living peacefully, is speaking out against those that incite conflict and spread hatred.

We should all strive towards this goal of peace.

We should always try to get rid of the bad we can, even as we realize that there’s always going to be bad in the world.

That’s just life.